want to thank everyone for coming here to help us celebrate getting our permanent residency. This means much more to us than most people can imagine. In 10 years, Jinny and I have never legally lived together in any country. And as a same sex couple our chances of immigrating together to the US were approximately zero. That's why I am so glad that there is Canada and the Canadian people to take us in when my own country would not. You are all our family.
y mother and father passed away some time ago. And I don't even speak to my siblings really without lawyers in the room. My parents were married for 35 years but I don't think they really liked each other. They didn't argue or fight but they also didn't touch or talk. I come from the south where traditionally people didn't get divorced. As long as you supported your family, maintained public appearances and showed up for church on Sunday, then just like in the novel "Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil" you could pretty much do whatever you wanted.
don't believe in marriage. I don't--let me be clear about that. At worse I think it's an act of political violence. A way for small minded men to keep women in the house--locked up and out of the way--wrapped up in the guise of tradition and conservative religious nonsense. At best I think it's a happy delusion. It's two people who truly love each other and yet they have no idea how miserable they are about to make each other. But when two people know this and they decide with eyes wide open to face each other and get married anyway then I don't think it's conservative or delusional. I think it radical and courageous and very romantic. With this in mind, I ask you Yeobo, my partner of 10 years, "Will you marry me?"